I have shared my love of twitter and I was way ahead of Oprah on this one. Oh why do I love thee? For some of you people who don’t know Twitter, it is a social media site designed to answer the simple question of “What are you doing?” In 140 characters or less, the tweeter (person who writes the tweet) gets to answer this question in a way that is individual to them. Starting out with Twitter was a suggestion from a friend online who just mentioned it in passing. I knew Facebook and Myspace already and decided I would check Twitter out. I don’t think I could have predicted the influence and the benefits from it. I think that it has made me more aware of my community both online and inmy everyday life. Alright so you might be thinking, “Well that is just super that you like it, but what the hell does it offer me?” I am going to give you a few reasons and uses for Twitter that you may or may not have considered. The viewpoint is all mine and the reasons are hardly new.
There are just some really cool people out in the world who you might not have the pleasure of running into. I live in Tennessee and some super cool “tweep” I chat with might live in California.
Twitter can be anything you want it to be. It can mean a lot to you and provide you a network of people all over the world to interact with or it can get an idea,website,blog, or product to a larger audience.
Twitter makes our world feel smaller and helps to get people in the same place who enjoy the same things. I mean searching for people who like to talk about clothes, sports, celebs, or in my case sex ( just occasionally of course) can be done locally but it takes time. For mothers it offers simply a way to connect to other moms easily and quickly. Twitter is just a click away and you get the chance to find any of these people with ease.
People drive Twitter and it has become a community for people like me to connect in meaningful ways that are far from trivial. We can say we feel connected but as I have been dealing with depression recently, there have many people who have written me supportive notes to tell me that they deal with it or give me supportive words. I don’t take that lightly and value this part of the interactions.
Guess what? Not everyone thinks like you and that my dears is okay. Twitter allows you a chance to maybe look at someone else’s point of view. If you are uncomfortable with that, you can also have a network of people who think like you do.
Sexy people… I said it. Twitter has made me smile more days than not. I provide a sexy tweet here and there and my tweeps will run with it. You can harmlessly flirt and have a good time all within a few minutes and 140 characters.
You know people where you go. You automatically get reviews on restaurants and things to do from people who live there or have been there. People lots of times meet up and hang out as well. How cool is that?
Those artists or actors who you have a sweet spot for may end up tweeting with you. How awesome is it that Steven Page from Barenaked Ladies tweets with me on occassion? It makes me want to spend more money on whoever the person of interest is and I feel personally connected. For the trolls however don’t screw it up for the rest of us by using it as a platform to spew nastiness…
Tweet-ups are events where people in the same community who use twitter actually meet face-to-face and you find that these people for the most part are just as cool in real life as online.
Where else can you make up a new vocabulary that starts with “tw-” like tweeps, twitterverse, or twittersphere?
There is in a nutshell some of the reasons I totally dig twitter and let me tell you there are many cool people out there just waiting to be found. Do yourself a favor and try it. It might be just what you have hoped for or even better. @showingmyassets is my twitter name. Look me up and tweet with me today!
P.S. I want to know your go to Twitter peeps… Add the name of that person in the comments here that you just love to read their tweets or look forward to reading. I love adding more interesting people to my list. Of course you know that @showingmyassets is the best one of course…
It is my birthday soon and while it is not like one of those “milestone” ones, it gives me a time to reflect on who I am, where I’ve been, and where I want to go. (no I did not get that off a greeting card or self-help book) Gonna say one thing right now, my life has been crazy. I have missed posting and am so glad to be back baby… Back to the subject at hand: me (or moi as the French like to say) and the many reasons why I am just that cool. For your reading pleasure I present to you the Top Ten Reasons I Rock:
I bring itwhen it comes to personality. I am bold yet tactful, simple yet complex, and compassionate yet firm. You might find some other peeps who are cool but I genuinely would totally hang out with myself if I was someone else.
In a society that often does not appreciate being genuine, I feel like I am almost at all times genuine. That means that if I am sad you see it or if I am happy you know it. I don’t live life pushing things down and not showing others how I feel.
I appreciate the special unique traits of people. I simply think that everyone of us has traits to share with the world. Instead of looking at the annoying ones, I try hard to look at those interesting traits. I have learned a lot from others by living like this. ( not all good but more often it has been the good things)
I know how to have an intoxicating attitude. I also am even more fun while intoxicated with this attitude. *wink* Just ask a few people who have seen me after a few chocolate martinis. For your information here is the definition of intoxicating in the sense I am describing :” to excite or elate to the point of enthusiasm or frenzy.”
I recognize and embrace the shortcomings I have and work with them. Let’s be real, I am really cool but I have some (very few mind you) things that I keep in mind. I am a procrastinator and put things off until the last minute. I used to be a neat freak and now I have gone to the “dark side.” I can be at times a bit of an “attention whore” (gasp). Other than those few things I am perfect… she says laughing to herself.
I like sex and I can say it loud and proud. I like it, need it, want it, and love talking about it. Quite simply my mind is a gutter and seems like most people (especially the fellas) seem to enjoy my incessant need to banter about it. I can be crude but favor being a verbal temptress who prefers to be provocative on-line and in person. I don’t know why but it seems like there just aren’t enough chicks like me.
I can express my emotions and thoughts in both written and verbal forms. As a trained clinical social worker, I am able to get the “stuff” out on the table and deal with it. I deal with what is going on and move on. I think that is cool because we have too many people who carry suitcases and suitcases of anger around with them.
I am a kick-ass wife most of the time with the exception of housework. If you ask hubs, I make it up in other ways!! I love fully and completely with the kids and am the kind of mother I want to be most of the time. I’m not perfect (although close) but keep my eye on what I want to be remembered for.
Finally I am fun… I can hang with all different kinds of people and enjoy it. I am open-minded and although we may not look like we have much in common, I am going to find a way to have fun with you if I can. There are a few hard nuts to crack sometimes and I know when to quit too.
There you have it. Pass it on to others. Tell them that I am just that cool. Have them read my blog or twitter me to show them (@showingmyassets) why they need to be reading my blog and making a personal connection to me. I may not be your cup of tea, but then again you have to take a sip of me to find out! I love all my readers and hope that the next year I can rock it just as hard as I rocked it this year…
Sex needs better public relations. (which will be referred to as PR from now on) Public relations – often referred to as PR – gains an organization or individual exposure to their audiences using topics of public interest and news items that do not require direct payment. I will do this work for free and the fact that no one is beating the door down to sponsor SOMA (Showing Off My Ass-ets) and my campaign to give sexuality a makeover. I am on record as saying that we need a team of advertisers and public relation types to get on board and make healthy and normal sexuality here in the United States (and I am sure other places too) just a part of life. No need for the “dirty little secrets ” or embarrassment regarding the whole issue. Now you might be thinking, how will I do this? As usual I have a plan to boost “my favorite pastime” to the place where it ought to be in society. Just think of me as the heroine for sexuality, baby!
The days of sexuality being “dirty” or “seedy” are hopefully days of the past with this new PR plan. Our goal is to: ” Provide society a chance to see what a healthy sexual relationship with yourself or a partner can be like, without the feelings of guilt and shame that have been associated with sexuality in our culture for many years.” It might be a basic goal but any goal that puts sexuality into a more positive light is a step in the right direction. Sex education is the goal. This is regarding school instruction but a ” Sex education, which is sometimes called sexuality education or sex and relationships education, is the process of acquiring information and forming attitudes and beliefs about sex, sexual identity, relationships and intimacy.” Our target audience: Men, women, and everyone in-between. We can’t leave anyone out of this equation.
I have never claimed to be a public relations aficionado but my life experiences and professional experiences have led me to the conclusion that when we don’t discuss sexuality in a healthy way and don’t have a vision of what that looks like it begins “oozing” into many areas of society which it need not go. Being able to have a healthy and positive self-image of your body and your own sexuality benefits us all. Healthy sexuality involves:
the ability to talk about sexual relationships not in a tawdry way but in a way that promotes sexuality as a part of life
the ability to ask for or give yourself what satisfies your own sexual needs
the maturity of the two people involved to understand the choice being made when engaging in this intimate activity
the confidence to believe that we as humans are designed by God (or whatever your belief system encompasses on this matter) for a healthy sexual relationship with each other.
Stepping down off the soapbox for the moment and just giving you some points to consider. Healthy sexuality here in the United States has been pushed underground and for that reason alone comes “oozing” to the top whenever there is the smallest crack. Take a minute to think about how great this gift of sexuality is to all of us. Promote the healthy sexuality that or society has taken from us and let’s enjoy the gift! ( I know I am going to)
A website which has a lot more information on things promoting sex education is http://www.edenfantasys.com/guides-tips/. There is something for everyone on the site and you can click on those things you are interested in and ignore parts you may not be interested in. I found this at their website, called Sex Is… and wanted to include it:
Sex is…discovery.
Sex is…finding out who you truly are.
Sex is…putting on masks to reveal your true face.
Sex is…body magic.
Sex is…of the soul.
Sex is…peace.
Sex is…your own private art.
Sex is…music.
Sex is…you.
Sex is…them.
Sex is…us.
Sex is…creativity.
Sex is…joy.
Sex is…anything you want it to be and more.
Sex is…last night.
Sex is…tonight.
Sex is…now.
Sex is…RIGHT here and RIGHT now.
I am charging you my readers to go out there and work on the PR for healthy sexuality and carry the banner of this cause. Did I also mention that it might also be fun? Love to hear your reactions to this or any post. I would not be Showing Off My Ass-ets if I didn’t make you think, would I?
This is a look at how chicks (females) and dudes (males) look at the world in relationship to my favorite subject, S-E-X . Men, grab a brew and use this as a chance to find out a little something about your wife, girlfriend, or wanna-be sex partner. The ladies love when you pay attention and it will look like you are full of insight into their mysterious world. Ladies listen up and find some things out about your man that may help you in being the uber-cool wife or girlfriend. This is for the single, those in a relationship, those not in relationship, and the married too. On one side I will have what the chick hears or think it means and on the other what the dude hears and what he thinks it means. My job will help you look like the all-star of the relationship world instead of the loser that you might be if you screw some of these things up.
Foreplay: Chicks may say to their man “Honey I need more foreplay before sex.” Women are saying here to you guys: Take more than five minutes to get the motor started and you will get much more out of it later. Men who say they want more foreplay ( which I have never heard a guy use in a sentence ) may tell their significant other : “Honey can you do a little something for me?” Translation: Ladies you need to get to work in the oral sex department. I am not saying all the time but give a little. Keep in mind: Women are like a oven and take a little bit of time to get hot but stay hot for a while. Men are more like a microwave that gets hot quick and heats up the meal and shuts off.
A Night Out: Chicks say : ” Let’s go out for a nice night.” Chicks are saying to you that they would like some kind of plan for the evening that involves a little forethought on your part. Possibly a few choices of restaurants or activities. There is this thing called the internet guys that helps you even come up with ideas. Most larger cities have the citysearch.com that allows you to just check out most romantic restaurants or coolest bar. They even have phone numbers to help you call and make the reservation. Men say: “Let’s go out for a nice night.” What they mean is “Let’s go to the local sports bar have some beer,wings, and chill.” For a lot of men that is close to heaven and if you can find a chick who digs that as a nice night then you are in luck. Meet in the middle men and women. Look at what the other person might think is great and give a little. Women look at going to the new restaurant that you want to go to and then suggest after that grabbing a few drinks at the local sports bar. Men take a note and figure out where the restaurant is and if you need reservations. With a little bit of luck, you are getting laid that night.
Sexual turn-ons: Most chicks do like sex(at least occasionally for some and a lot more for some of the women like me) and there are some things which make them extra aroused if the men take a second to find out what it is. Chicks say: ” I love a man who can give me what I need.” The chick is talking about the fact that she wants to be asked what she wants before being seduced. Men all you must do is ask the questions about what turns them on… You might think you know but trust me women like to tell you what they want. Men say: “I like a girl who knows how to please a man.” Men mean that they want less conservation and more action. They want more than the standard missionary position for approximately 13 minutes followed by cuddling and sleep. They still would like the sleep but they are asking for the girl to shall we say “be a freak in the bedroom.” Women before getting your panties all in a bunch, just think outside the box ( I know nice choice of words there) and live a little. Make some noise or give the man a mind-blowing blowjob he won’t soon forget.
Of course there are many other things I could mention in this article which might help you in the romance department , but this was just a few of the common mistakes that the chicks and the dudes make when relating to each other. It happens in relationships, in hook-ups, and in marriages all of the time. Just think aren’t you lucky to have me to help guide you through these murky waters? Shoot me a comment and let me know if I am off base or right on as your feedback is always appreciated. Now if we could only figure out the the whole television remote problem…
Over the weekend I attended Blissdom 09, a conference for women who blog, and learned so many things that will help make my work better. My last post was about a week ago and I am letting y’all know that I am feeling passionate right now…
What does that mean? It means that I have begun to find the inner voice that I have been searching for over the last several months. I had questions when I began my writing here in late October. Would people be interested or entertained? I have confidence, and knew I had the skills to provide something unique, but wondered if that would be validated by others. With the comments that all of my lovely readers have left over the last several months, however, I feel empowered. While I love my audience that reads faithfully, I also write just for the passion of writing. A turning point occurred this weekend that unlocked some valuable insight, and I now know where I want to go.
This is to pursue the passion for writing about women’s issues and sexuality in a way that perhaps others don’t. I truly believe that I have something to add to the lives of my readers, to make you think about things differently or laugh (at me) on a day when you might need a moment like that. My passion for life is (I hope) obvious, but if you have not read any of my prior posts I encourage you go back and see if we are a fit. Finding someone who you want to read is much like a dance. I may step on your toes, and you may decide you are not comfortable with my content. You may find that the longer you dance with me, and we become used to each other that it becomes more fluid. You may find that my steps are too fast or too slow. My hope is that you dance with me, find that you had a great time, and want to come back another day. Better yet, I want you to like dancing with me so much that you tell others where the dance is and bring them along next time.
If you came here and decide that it is not what you expected, I get that too. Respectfully I ask you to give me a chance to add a little spice to your day. I have a passion, and I am a woman who is comfortable expressing that to a wide audience. Hang on, however; because I have a whole bunch of ideas bouncing around in this sometimes unbalanced brain. Just as the song goes by Bachman Turner Overdrive ” You Ain’t Seen Nothing Yet.”
There are some great sex studies out there that actually help regular folks like you and I improve our sex lives. (okay we are not regular, but you get the point) There are also studies about sex that just make you say : Can we say obvious? Here is a little recap of some of those ridiculously obvious studies with my own views. You can thank me later for pointing out these studies to you… For my readers who have not come into their own sexuality please take some helpful hints from the studies. I promise not to tell anyone.
Attractive people get more sex. I know this is hard to believe but it is true. I want the study that takes drunk guys or girls however and sees how many times the beer goggles are in play. Beer goggles are :
phenomenon in which one’s consumption of alcohol makes physically unattractive persons appear beautiful; summed up by the phrase, “there are no ugly women at closing time”
Really, you know there is some researcher out there who wants to do this research.
Porn as a sex educator. There is an Austrian study that found that over half of the male youth rely on porn as a tool for sex information. The sad part is how many times is I think many of us know that the quality of the pornography is questionable. Can you say pornography and quality in the same sentence? I again put out there that we as parents and as a society need to be more open with sexuality and stop getting our proverbial “panties in a bunch.”
It’s all in your head. Yes the largest sex organ would be your big … BRAIN! This study showed that men who were concerned about erections had a negative correlation with arousal. I wonder why? Let’s see it makes sense that if someone has anxiety about something that it will affect one’s life in negative ways. The same study also showed : For women, lack of erotic thoughts and failure to control intrusive thoughts were found to impact their sexual response. That seems just hard to believe that the intrusive thoughts about the grocery list during foreplay might contribute to a less than satisfying sexual experience.
I just picked a few off the list of those studies of 2008 but my goal was to just put out there that while this information may be widely known by most, our whole society does a poor job on educating people on a typical and normal part of life. My question is where do I get signed up for being a participant in these studies? I want to do my part to help you know…
Comments are not expected but appreciated always. The cobwebs that formed in my brain over the holidays seem to be clearing and I promise for 2009 to give my readers a few laughs , a smile, and perhaps even a thought provoking point.
I am a girl I guess who thinks about food (ahem) a lot of the time. The reason I bring it up is not to brag or boast but just to state the facts. I used to think that there were many other women like me but as I have grown older and dare I say wiser I see that I am not in the norm. I guess I in some ways enjoy that fact because it does make me unique but on the other hand I have trouble finding women who identify with me. For me most of my friends (mostly married like myself) view sex and intimacy as a “chore” or something needing to be done like doing the laundry. I on the other hand view it as a way to show my significant other affection and love and connect in a way that is uniquely ours. In continuing the comparison of food appetite and sexual appetite I found this Sex and the City quote that kind of sums it up:
“Samantha: So, how were they?
Carrie: The pancakes? Delicious, exactly what I wanted. I couldn’t get enough.
Samantha: No, I was referring to the moves.
Carrie: Delicious, exactly what I wanted. I couldn’t get enough.”
I know that there are many things that go into the sex drive: biology, psychology, and relationships but that is another post. The therapist in me knows all about those things but in a practical sense I want to find some of my sisters in womanhood who share my love of sex. I want to find the friend who wants to talk openly about wanting to be with her partner in that way. I don’t mind most of the time really and kind of like the status with the men or being viewed as the “cool wife” .
I am just amazed that there are not more women who think more like me and do think about sex like a man which is more often than not…I guess I will continue to stay hopeful that there will be women who are like me. In the meantime however I will continue to read my erotica and indulge in my fantasies. I will let you in on the fact that my house might not be perfectly clean but my husband does wear a smile in terms of his sex life! Post some comments because I know you have viewpoints. Looking forward to hearing from you…
Going out on a limb here and exposing the fact that you and I have “a list.” You are now saying to me what kind of list? A list of things I need to do? A shopping list? A Christmas list? No to the aforementioned lists, while they are very nice lists to have this is not the one I was getting at… Because I am one hot mama, I have kept track of my list for many years. Yes let me explain, I am taking it down to the gutter and we are going to explore “the list.” I am going to explain it is a “to do list” in the sense of if this person were available and willing to have sex with me I would do them! ( I crack myself up sometimes) This list is usually decided on with your partner or significant other as a what I like to call a free pass. It means that in the fantasy world where we all sometimes go, what celebrities ( authors, actors,actresses, etc) would we in a hypothetical situation want to “be with?”(under no penalties by the significant other) There may be a few of you out there who don’t know what I mean, but for the rest of you I encourage you to ask your partner or significant other who is on their list. We all have a list in our heads and we may add or subtract people on and off the list. This is how the conversation went long ago with hubs when we had just started dating : Me: “Who would you put on your list of chicks you would like to do if they became an option and I would let you be with them? Who would you want to knock boots with?” Hubs: “You want me to give you that list? Are you sure I won’t get any trouble with you?” So the conversation moves on and the list is drawn up. Too be totally fair to hubs I even did criticize his list… Okay he had Jewel on there and at the time i was preoccupied with her lack of dental work. Don’t be like me let your man or woman have their list! I learned my lesson.
You might be asking, okay why don’t I give you some people on my list? My answer is no problem. My list is diverse but it reflects what I like…(in no certain order)
Okay so I am sure I have left several people off the list but now you at least get the point. The list gives an idea of what you like. I tend to go for the funny smart guys . This is not exclusive but you see there are trends. My job for you today is to think about who might go on that list and send me your comments. I am not in the business of judging your list, after all it is your list. After you come up with some people on your list think about sharing the list with your partner,spouse, significant other, friend, or even your pet. The last one is in case you can’t find anyone to share it with…
It is a fun little mental exercise and who does not like thinking about who they want “to do?” I know that some days we just need a little something to help us through our day and I hope I made you smile. I hope you have enjoyed the trip into this woman’s sexually charged mind today and remember some days we all just need a laugh. Hope you have a great day and I will be waiting to hear your lists!!!( I promise to keep them to myself but I may have to add them to mine if they appear worthy)
